Tony Miltenberger is a husband, father, and follower of Christ. He is currently serving as the lead pastor at Restoration Church Centerville, ohio.

Romance was bludgeoned to death by a green bean casserole.

This time of year my schedule gets crazy. Work at the church picks up, Connor is playing indoor soccer, and we begin to create the holiday circuit. The holiday circuit is when we start going from house to house eating food and celebrating the holiday season. For us that begins mid November and will continue on till January 1st. The circuit can be brutal, but the food is always good so it works out in the wash. 

The number one thing that dies during the holidays in marriages with kids in the home is romance. Yup, it gets killed by shuffling children, casseroles, and yourself from one house to the next. Romance is bludgeoned to death by green bean casseroles. 

For that reason the number one question we should be asking ourselves is: Am I dating my spouse? Are you taking time to date and be intentional about developing romance? Newsflash - there is no one else who can make this a priority in your life. There is no one who can ensure that this is developing and growing.

For a lot of couples they get to the end of the holiday circuit and then feel like they need to re-introduce themselves to one another. Don't let a green bean casserole get the best of your marriage. Put a date on your calendar right now! If you want to get crazy put two dates on the calendar. 

What are some of your most romantic date ideas during the holidays? How do you make dating your partner a priority? I'd love to hear your comments below! 


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